GNI Gathering

I just got back from this year's GNI Gathering and somehow it seems to get even better each year. This I returned for the full-week option as I did my first year. I have to say that I am majorly tired, but would trade a single minute. It was great seeing guys that I met from previous years as well as meeting new friends. Some people memories:

• First I have to mention the guys in my cabin as well as our sister cabin. We all know each other fairly well and most are pretty good friends whom had travelled together previously. As usual, they are just an awesome group of guys to be around and to have in my life.
• I saw T from Boston for the third year in a row. The BF and I also visited him an his partner in Boston and Vermont in June this year and at the time he was considering not returning. I posted about it before here and here. I'm glad he did decided to return and would like to believe that my encouragement had a little to do with it. We spent several nights dancing the night away and closing the dance club together. T and I have always just shared a special bond.
• Two really cool guys from NY whom I have become close to over the years. I was disappointed to hear that JN wasn't returning, but was told that A would be there. I was kinda disappointed when I arrived last Sunday and he wasn't there, but was simply elated he arrived mid-week.
• I met A from California on my first night there near the bonfire and we instantly became friends. He called me his "chocolaton", which I found very endearing. A just had a radiant personality such that you just couldn't help being drawn into him. He fit it quite well.
• I remember spending time speaking with R from Boston. It was his first year so I asked him what he thought of the place so far. I already knew the answer because he had an ear-to-ear grin that he just couldn't erase from his face for days. Nonetheless, his answer blew me away as he struggled for words to describe the experience for him.

Of course there were many, MANY others. Then there were the daily, themed cocktail parties, the dancing, the costumes and the shows. As for sex... of course there was plenty of that too. Not in common places as that is against the rules, but there are more than enough places to go for those who desire to do so. Then of course there was the annual 100-man J/O session.

I definitely want to post more photos, but I just returned and am trying to rest as well as I can before flying out to Burning Man in the morning.

Prayer for Burning Man

I read this on the Gay Burners website today that I thought felt very welcoming:

Dear Burgins, everyone had their first year. Everyone understands and most will help you along your way. May the wind be at your backs and your party be on. May you walk away changed and blessed and enlightened. Bless you all…

Marriage Equality

I was struck by this graphic that I came across today. Wow how things are a-changing! The geek in me can't help but notice how linear/straight the lines are. One thing I've never understood about the gay marriage debate is why doesn't the "full faith and credit" clause of the consistution require each state to recognize gay marriages performed in another state. I can understand how a state could legislate that it wouldn't issue marriage licenses for same-sex couples, but instituting a law the specifically and directly states that one state will not honor a marriage performed in another seems clearly unconsitutional. Then again... I'm not a lawyer so what do I know.

Tom Hardy

I came across this quote a couple of weeks ago from Tom Hardy, who played a prominent role in the movie Inception:

As a boy? Of course I have. I'm an actor for ****'s sake. I've played with everything and everyone. I love the form and the physicality, but now that I'm in my thirties, it doesn't do it for me. - Tom Hardy 

Typically it is the Kinsey 0s and 6s that first become comfortable with their sexuality. I wish that the many shades of gray could become as comfortable as Tom is.

100 Naked Gay Boys

I've had the opportunity twice recently to visit a friend who has a country/vacation home a good ways outside of Richmond. I've posted about this place before here and here.

The trip was actually a large event held through one of the local nudist groups. I don't know how many people actually showed up, but just over 100 RSVP'd. The hosts have quite a few beds since they have people over often, but to support a crowd of this size, there were also guys on air mattresses in the basement, in the other two structures on the property as well as numerous guys that brought tents. I really love these parties because the combination of nudity, sun and the stress-free environment promotes bonding with others on a level that is rare in the normal world. This trip was absolutely no different.

The food was way better than I would have expected and the bar was well-stocked. Saturday night there was a very interesting S&M demonstration near the fire pit. Just after the demo, it started to rain so I ducked into a nearby tent for a little while, which turned out to be a very fun diversion. I actually fell asleep in the tent as I waited for the rain to subside before eventually just giving up and returning to the house in the rain. The funny thing is that what sounded like a downpour hitting the tent was really just a light drizzle so I really waited for no reason at all. That was OK by me though as I wouldn't have changed one moment of it.

I didn't take any pics this time around, so I uploaded a pic I took about 2 years ago while at the same place.

Facebook Fail!

This is funny, but since it's true it's also kinda sad:

So if you're at the Eagle and they're playing Bieber, is it ok to sing and dance along?

IMEN

So I've been want to attend the IMEN Gathering and decided to go for the half-week option. So I arrived there on Wednesday right about 4:45p, which was perfect timing since the daily cocktail party was just getting into full swing.

So as I expected to, I had a great time. I didn't really attempt to find any DCers to go with, but I did expect that I'd probably see a couple of people I knew. However, I was really surprised by just how many people there were from the DC area. I wouldn't be surprised if there were 20 DC guys there. I also ran into a couple of I know from Baltimore as well as folks that I had previously seen or met at GNI.

Overall, the experience is kind of a scaled-down version of the GNI Gathering, which is exactly what I had expected.  There certainly less people, but again that was expected. I would have to say that the average of the attendees was skewed older.

So things I enjoyed most:

• As with GNI, the cocktail parties were great. I did dress up at 3 of the 4 parties that I attended. They especially liked it when I dressed in a tutu, knee-high patent leather boots and a fish net top for the Rocky Horror themed day.
• I loved the overall vibe that was filled with acceptance and friendliness. Of course that are traits that tend to permeate naked events in general and a large part of what drew me into nudism in the first place.
• I love how just hanging around in a group of naked guys for extended periods of time tends to break down the walls that we normally erect between us. I love just being able to be in the company of another beautiful person (not necessarily physical), and to experience the closeness and sharing of souls that transpires.
• I love to see the older men smiling and having fun as if they were teenagers. There was one guy there who was probably close to 70 or more and shuffled his feet as he slowly walked. But if you could see him cut up the dance floor night after night, you would think that he was 20 years younger.

The days were beautiful even if a little hot and humid. Fortunately, I spent most of the daytime hours around the pool so the heat wasn't even an issue. I spent quite a bit of time with a guy who's a dominant in the S&M scene and his friend who came down for a day and a half. So I got my first experience as a sub although he made sure to tell me how poor of a job I was doing. It was actually fun play although I'm not sure I could do that full-time. I also met a beautiful guy from New York with whom I spent quite a bit of time. He was incredibly sweet, affectionate and had the most beautiful bubble-butt. We cuddled quite a bit, but it never really progressed further than that.

As for events, I participated in the Family Feud as well as the celebrity auction, where I fetched on of the highest prices. They were raising money for scholarships for next year's event for members that can't financially afford to come. I also dressed for some of the themed cocktail parties including Rocky Horror (pictured above), leather and Star Wars.

As I expected I had a great time and would do it again.

On Aging and Happiness...

I recently read several articles about a recent study on happiness highlighting the relative differences between younger and older adults. The study found the happiness is correlated with age, but not in the way most people might think. In fact the study found that happiness peaked somewhere near age 65.

A close friend of mine is always reminding himself (and me) that he is getting old. Since 'old' is a relative term, I interpret this as meaning that he is getting 'older'. But what does that mean? Older than what? For sure we're all older than we were last year... or yesterday... or even since a few moments ago so this interpretation of 'older' is so inherent that it is not even worth saying. So then what do we mean by we're getting 'older'?

Perhaps we have an idea of what constitutes a happy life and we believe we are getting to old to live that life? I distinctly recall when I was 27 feeling that only had 3 more good years and after that it was all down hill. I can honestly say that my first 27 years were pretty good, but the time since has been even better. We can never be sure what the future holds, but we can be sure that we have right now. So my happiness advice is:

• Never fret about the past because there's nothing we can do about it. Learn whatever lessons the past has to teach us and move on.
• Figure out the things that we actually have power to change or influence. Make sure that our actions in these areas are in line with our desires for our life and happiness.
• Figure out the things that we cannot change. To be honest, we actually have very little power of much but we do control how we react to what is happening around us. Therein lies our power. For those things that we don't control, be honest and admit it. Once we admit it, we can treat it like the laws of gravity. No one ever gets pissed at gravity when the fall because they know that gravity cannot be controlled. Rather they stressing about gravity we think that we should be more careful. So next time you encounter an asshole, understand that some (few not most) people are assholes and always will be and that this cannot be changed. Our power is in how we deal with the asshole such that it contributes or at least does not detract from our life and happiness.
• Learn to appreciate the good in things.

Relax

Last weekend some friends and I visited the couple that has a secluded, country home in Virginia. As usual it was beautiful. It's always interesting to see all of the latest improvements that they've made there since they're always doing something. All days there are pretty much the same, and that's fine with me. We spent the weekend drinking, talking and alternating between sitting on the porch, soaking up rays by the pool and swimming. Although this is the same location that is planning a weekend party for 100 later in the month, this day there were just the five of us.

Ryan Reynolds Public Nudity

I saw this on Naked Black Guy blog and just had to re-post:

Mel

We already knew that Mel Gibson was insane, but really?

Listen to the audio and judge for yourself.

Here's a synopsis taken from the HuffPost:

"You should just f*cking smile and blow me," he screams. And: "You need a f*cking bat in the side of the head. Alright, how about that?"


Oksana stays reasonable and cool as Mel grows more and more out of control. He accuses her of threatening him, which she denies, and he threatens to kill her.

"Threaten ya? I'll put you in a f *ckin rose garden you c*nt! You understand that? Because I'm capable of it. You understand that?"

Mel also explains the failure of his relationships.

"You have no fucking soul. And my soul is screaming because you don't have one to join mine!" he screams. "I left my wife because we had no spiritual common ground. You and I have none. Zero. You don't even f*cking try!"

Nudity and Guns

Louisiana just passed a law that specifically allows registered qualified gun-owners to their carry concealed guns into churches. It makes me wonder what the circumstances that made the legislature and governor believe that such an action was necessary.

As I read this, it makes me wonder about a world where the natural human state (i.e. nudity) is criminalized, yet guns are not only legal, but encouraged... in church no less!

I guarantee you the world would be a better place if there was more nudity and less guns.

Hilarious

Does anyone find this as funny as I do?

Facebook Quote

A friend of mine wrote this on his wall. I thought it was cute.

He came to me one night; explored my body, licked, sucked, swallowed! When satisfied, he left and I was hurt!... Fucking mosquito!

Boston and Vermont, Ctd

Pictures from the trip that I took a few weeks earlier. I'm looking at the expression on my face in all of these and can't for the life of me figure out what I was thinking. 

 

Damned Homonyms!

I have always asked that question on road trips...my fav construction next 53 miles and never see a sole.

This is a quote from a not-so-close friend on Facebook. I wanted to reply, "I think that's a good thing because those damned soles are always littering up the power lines", but thought better of it. It's funny... when I read, these types of mistakes, they jump out at me. But when I write, I make the same mistakes all of the time. It has caused me to realize that writing and reading exercise different parts of the brain.

Boston and Vermont

I met a a guy at the GNI Gathering two years ago, who immediately became a friend. We had kept in contact throughout the year that followed and I was absolutely elated to see him upon my return to GNI the subsequent year. He lives in Boston with his partner, whom I had never met, and had purchased a vacation country home on Rock River in Vermont. Rock River is very popular gay swimming hole near Brattleboro Vermont. For about a year and a half now, he has been inviting me and the BF to visit them but somehow the time and season never seemed to work out.

So when he invited us once again a couple of months ago, I was determined to make it work. Getting to Brattleboro isn't the easiest thing to do since there is only one Amtrak train from here to there that leaves just once per day and takes 8.5 hours. We considered driving, but that too would take about the same time assuming no traffic. Good luck with that. So we decided to fly into Boston and spend part of Friday there before leaving to Vermont.

Once in Vermont, we spent late-afternoon Friday down on the river, which was stunningly beautiful and bucolic. We stopped at swimming hole #5 where we talked to some guys there that Steve knew and swam in the river. This was the last swimming hole and is mostly visited by gay men for naked lounging and swimming. On Saturday and Sunday we attended the naked massage workshop at Frog Meadow. Frog Meadow is a gay B&B, with a beautiful and large home, pond, hot tub and miles of hiking trails. Late that night we went to a gay-owned restaurant named Peter Havens in Brattleboro before sitting on the porch back at the house with a cocktail.

On Sunday, after the workshop, we headed back to the river where there were even more people than before, then later had dinner at a local tavern.

Before heading back on Monday, we bought local cheese, maple syrup and toured a couple of the local towns. All in all it was an absolutely wonderful weekend and I'm glad I got to meet my friend Steve's other half.

SIDE NOTE: Brattleboro was the site of a news story that I had read about last year. Basically, with their philosophy of "live and let live", Vermont is the only state (that I know of anyway) in which public nudity hasn't been made illegal. So last year a group of teenagers took to hanging out in the downtown area naked on weekends. The city legislature, determined to put a stop to this eventually passed a law that public nudity was illegal within the business district, which is actually a relatively small area. Even though I wish that they had not passed such a law, I think it speaks a lot about Vermonters that the law was as narrowly constrained as it was. Had this had taken place nearly anywhere else, public nudity would almost certainly had been legalized throughout the jurisdiction. Go Vermont!

Palin Clone

So... err... vote for her because... she's a straight shooter?

IMEN

So I've been trying to convince the BF to go the IMEN Gathering this year. We've never been before, but I imagine it is a slightly smaller version of the GNI Gathering. Having attended GNI two years ago (and already signed up for this August) and to The Woods Campground just a few weeks ago, I decided that this naked camping this is pretty cool and really wanted to go. He does enjoy it but he most enjoy events that entail "doing something" (my words not his) whereas I will be perfectly content on doing nothing at all as long as I am sharing the time with cool people.

Anyway, he told me that I should go ahead and go, but he will not be attending, and I am really looking forward to it.

C.R.A.Z.Y

Movies, and more specifically Hollywood, tends to disappointment. My most common grief is that they spend so much money on a move and spare no expense, but then put in the most inane things. Sometimes these are lines, or a ridiculous character or situation. Sometimes it's a response that makes no sense, but supposedly underpins the entire movie. Typically, Hollywood movies have great production, great sound, great special effects but incredibly poor writing and characters. Oh well.

That's why I was so happy when I saw this just a couple of nights ago. We watched it via Netflix Instant Play, which I love and believe that the concept is definitely the future of home movie watching. I just can't wait until they get the majority of their library online.

Anyway, this move was superb and I'd definitely recommend it. Be forewarned... it's in Canadian French, but well worth reading the subtitles.

I Love You Phillip Morris

I hadn't heard of this until today. Supposedly it has a very explicit sex scene in in which Jim Carrey instructs Ewan McGregor to "come in my ass" or something similar. I haven't seen that scene, but here's the trailer, which looks like typical Carrey-zany fair but with somewhat of a twist.

The Woods Campground

Last week we went to The Woods Campground near Allentown PA for leather weekend. This was our first time going to a clothing-optional/naked, gay campground outside of the GNI Gatherings. A friend of ours visits several times a year and was telling us about leather weekend while we were both visiting other friends in Richmond and I decided to go.

We arrived on Friday around 6pm and almost immediately ran into the friend. He immediately got us to remove our clothes, but of course that wasn't too hard for me. Since my only other gay, naked camping was GNI, I'll try to compare and contrast.

• Obviously there were less people at the campgrounds, but that was to be expected.
• There are less occasions where you would see a large majority of people in one place at the same time.
• It did retain the very friendly and open atmosphere that makes it so easy to meet others and share time together.
• Since it's clothing optional, there were a fair number of clothed people, particularly during the daytime.

Overall, we had a really good time. Some of my favorite memories were:

• Spending several hours with a beautiful 24 y/o who followed us around for the better part of Friday. He wore shorts during the day, but nothing but a harness at night. Very sexy.
• Going to the party that was hosted by a couple of the guys there. Their place had a surprising number of bath tubs...
• Spending a couple of hours in a nearby camp that saw me stumbling home late Saturday night. They invited me over for smores, great fire-roasted grilled cheese sandwiches and even better conversation.
• And of course... the dungeon.

I'm already booked for the full week at the GNI Gathering in late August and am hoping to be able to attend the IMEN Gathering for a half-week in July if possible.

I Could Care Less

Interracial Trends

I love interracial couples whether they are straight or gay and I'm not even exactly sure why. Perhaps it's because I am in such a relationship or perhaps because I tend to find all races beautiful. Or maybe it's because it is a symbol of acceptance and the world as I would like to see it.

Anyway, I came across this report by the Pew Research Center that reports that almost 15% of all new marriages are between people of different races or ethnicities. There's also a pretty cool interactive graph here that really highlights interracial marriages by geographic region here.

Take away... If you're looking for a mixed race marriage, move to Cali.

I've often stated that the two things that continue to drive technology are games and porn. Porn is so prevalent in gay culture that you can find it playing openly in many gay bars. Although it's certainly less open, I've often wondered how prevalent it has become in the straight world given the rise of the Internet. This infographic helps answer those questions. Unfortunately, it is possible to have such a graphic without asking "what is porn?" Given that one of the search engine results that they qualify as porn is "gay dating", I'm kind of taking these statistics with a grain of salt. Besides if it had any real scientific they would have published their methods. I know... I can be such a geek.


Via: Online MBA

Gay McDonald's Commercial

Not a fan of Micky D's, but this was cute.

Whatsa Nudist?

After two years of having this blog I thought this might be a good topic. The truth is that if you ask twenty self-professed nudist this question you'll likely get as many answers. I was at a party recently where someone was remarking on the difference between a nudist and a "true nudist" as if there were some kind of purity test. Such distinctions are often made within the community and I won't even start on the distinctions that we create between nudists and naturists. Here are some of the distinctions that I've heard:

1. Nudism don't have sex.

2. True nudists hate wearing clothes and want to be naked all the time.

3. Nudists are always naked when at home.

For the record, I did consult Merriam-Webster's and it said:

Nudism: The practice of going nude, esp. in places that allow sexually mixed groups, in the belief that such practice benefits health.

Useless, so let's move on...

What is nudism to me? Well I like to keep things very simple, so a nudist is anyone that enjoys being naked in the company in social settings.

Tribute to Gary

I just learned that Gary Coleman died yesterday of a brain hemorrhage. Like many of my generation, I grew up watching Diff'rent Strokes. It was nice to see cute black kids on TV. I think I even had a little bit of a crush on Todd Bridges, but of course Gay was the cute one. Unfortunately, they both went on to live tortured lives because I don't think man was made to be so widely revered and scrutinized their whole lives... and especially not at such a young age. I guess that's the consequence our celebrity-driven culture.

Diff'rent Strokes was typically a typical sit-com with a much levity. However, I do remember one episode in particular that was decidedly different. My memory may not be perfect since I haven't seen it since I was quite young. In this episode, Arnold, Gary's character, was worried because he was shorter than everyone else his age. Do Mr Drummond took a doctor so that they could use the spacing between his bones to determine how tall he would eventually be. The idea was to prove to Gary's character that he had nothing to worry about. When the results came back, Arnold was told that he would always remain diminutive and would never grow to 5 feet tall. This was one of the only episodes that I can remember that ended on a sad/poignant note. It comes to mind because in retrospect it foreshadowed his life.
Rest in peace Gay.

Below is a mash up of scenes of Coleman in Diff'rent Strokes.

Letter from a Soldier

I came across this posting on the Service Members Legal Defense Network, which an organization attempting to end discrimination against gay service members. It really touched me. I'm always amazed because behind every set of eyes that we face each day, there is a story... a story of love, of triumph and of struggle.

SLDN has been sending letters to Obama advocating the repeal of Don't Ask Don't Tell. It is a letter from one WWII veteran to another on their anniversary.

Dear Dave,

This is in memory of an anniversary – the anniversary of October 27th, 1943, when I first heard you singing in North Africa. That song brings memories of the happiest times I’ve ever known. Memories of a GI show troop – curtains made from barrage balloons – spotlights made from cocoa cans – rehearsals that ran late into the evenings – and a handsome boy with a wonderful tenor voice. Opening night at a theatre in Canastel – perhaps a bit too much muscatel, and someone who understood. Exciting days playing in the beautiful and stately Municipal Opera House in Oran – a misunderstanding – an understanding in the wings just before opening chorus.

Drinks at “Coq d’or” – dinner at the “Auberge” – a ring and promise given. The show 1st Armoured – muscatel, scotch, wine – someone who had to be carried from the truck and put to bed in his tent. A night of pouring rain and two very soaked GIs beneath a solitary tree on an African plain. A borrowed French convertible – a warm sulphur spring, the cool Mediterranean, and a picnic of “rations” and hot cokes. Two lieutenants who were smart enough to know the score, but not smart enough to realize that we wanted to be alone. A screwball piano player – competition – miserable days and lonely nights. The cold, windy night we crawled through the window of a GI theatre and fell asleep on a cot backstage, locked in each other’s arms – the shock when we awoke and realized that miraculously we hadn’t been discovered. A fast drive to a cliff above the sea – pictures taken, and a stop amid the purple grapes and cool leaves of a vineyard.

The happiness when told we were going home – and the misery when we learned that we would not be going together. Fond goodbyes on a secluded beach beneath the star-studded velvet of an African night, and the tears that would not be stopped as I stood atop the sea-wall and watched your convoy disappear over the horizon.

We vowed we’d be together again “back home,” but fate knew better – you never got there. And so, Dave, I hope that where ever you are these memories are as precious to you as they are to me.

Goodnight, sleep well my love.

Brian Keith

Morally In Step

I found this poll by Gallup and decided it would be a fun test to see how in/out of step I am with the rest of America on today's hot-button social issues. Unfortunately, these categories are not as "hot" as they seem since the vast majority are considered "acceptable" by most Americans.

Issue	America	Me
Doctor assisted suicide	Even	Acceptable
Gay or lesbian relations	Acceptable (+9%)	Acceptable
Abortion	Unacceptable (-12%)	Acceptable
Having a baby outside of marriage	Acceptable (+14%)	Acceptable
Buying and wearing clothing made of animal fur	Acceptable (+25%)	Acceptable1
Medical testing on animals	Acceptable (+25%)	Acceptable
Gambling	Acceptable (+27%)	Acceptable
Medical research using stem cells obtained from human embryos	Acceptable (+27%)	Acceptable
Cloning animals	Acceptable (+32%)	Acceptable
Divorce	Acceptable (+46%)	Acceptable
Suicide	Unacceptable (-62%)	Acceptable2
Cloning humans	Unacceptable (-79%)	Acceptable
Polygamy, when one husband has more than one wife at the same time	Unacceptable (-83%)	Unacceptable3
Married men and women having an affair	Unacceptable (-86%)	Unacceptable4

Now if I could just get Gallup to do a similar poll on leather, S&M, golden showers and walking naked through public streets....

Footnotes:
¹There is nothing inherently morally wrong with wearing animal fur, however there is something morally wrong with killing hundreds of animals to make one coat for no other reason than vanity. I wish there were a way to guarantee that animal fur used for coats only came from animals that are already dying for other reasons, but sadly with few exceptions such as leather, this is not the world we live in. So although fur coats are not inherently evil, I am totally against them.

²We usually think of suicide as someone giving up, but I'm expanding it to include people that are terminally ill with a severely decreased quality of life (i.e. severe pain, etc). When a pet is experiencing this we euthanize them and say it is the "humane" thing to do. But when the same happens to Grandma, all of a sudden we can't do the humane thing to humans. Makes no sense to me.

³I have no problem with polygamy if that's what all involved want. I don't think it typically works very well, but who am I to say? That said, this question was specifically worded with gender imbalances so in this light I think it is wrong.

⁴Again, I have no problem with people doing as they see fit. However, the use of the word "affair" implies that this is occuring without consent.

Unbelievable!

Two year old smokes 40 Cigarettes a day.


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Hmmm

I saw this video of Rand Paul today. In case you don't know, Rand is the son of the quirky congressman Ron Paul and has a fairly strong libertarian bent. I'm kind of weird in that I typically believe what people say unless I see something that convinces me otherwise. So taking this at face value means that he is not racist, just extremely libertarian... and stupid. I mean... WOW!!! For the record, this is why I abhor purists. They find simple solutions that will solve all of our problems. Of course these solutions usually don't exist because life is fundamentally about trade-offs and calculated risks.

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Glen Beck

Ok, normally Glen pisses me off, but Stephen Colbert did such a good job making fun of him last night Glen made me laugh even more than he made me upset. This is hilarious.

Collateral Damage

I found this video a couple of days ago and it still sickens me. Police officers break in the door of a Missouri family, shoot the dog, yells at the family as if criminals. All of this is done in front of their 7 year old son. As you watch, try imagining yourself in the position of the dad, mom and even the kid. They'll remember this for the rest of their lives and may even have nightmares for quite a while. They'll never like or even trust the police again.

And why? Because they had so little marijuana that they couldn't even be charged with anything above a misdemeanor. Remember that marijuana is less addictive and less toxic than either cigarettes or alcohol. No one ever ODs on marijuana like they do with alcohol, yet this family has had their lives irreparably damaged because of what took place between two consenting adults.

DISCLAIMER: I don't even smoke the stuff, I just think it's ridiculous!

More Palm Springs

Gaga/Beyonce Telephone via the US Army

Goverment Regulation

I ran across this this article the other day, which provides a common-sense look at how government regulation is REQUIRED to foster freedom. Now for the record, I believe laws should be kept to a minimum and only instituted when there is an overwhelming case for them. I also know that as a society advances they tend to make more and more laws while eliminating very few of the old laws making the mere task of understanding what we're supposed to do nearly impossible. Don't believe me? Try buying a vacation home, owning your own home, rent out a room or two, start a business, buy and sell a few shares of stock and then do your own taxes.

That said, regulation does have place. The reason I hate the current Republican arguments is because they've become purists. Rather than realizing that the real question is one of balance, they've taken a "drugs is bad" kind of approach in saying that all government intervention is bad (except the military industrial complex of course).

Here's an except in which Bok uses a traffic analogy to make the point:

Normally, the point of driving is to get somewhere. The traffic laws enable us to get where we are going much more quickly and safely than we would if each of us had to decide for him- or herself which side of the street to drive on. The traffic laws do not tell us where to go. They leave the choice of destination, and for that matter the decision whether to drive at all, entirely up to us. They simply tell us which side of the road to drive on, that we should stop at various points, and so forth. By taking away our freedom to drive on the left, or to blast through busy intersections, they grant us much more freedom in the form of a greatly enhanced ability to get wherever we want to go quickly and safely.


Anyone who thinks that the traffic laws enhance our freedom should acknowledge that in some cases, including this one, government action can enhance our freedom, even if that action takes the form of restrictions on what we can and cannot do. An enormous number of questions about which (other) forms of government action might enhance our freedom would remain to be answered, but the fact that some government policy involves either a more active government or new restrictions on our action would not, by itself, imply that it diminishes our freedom.

Burning Man Update

RECAP: In January I started communicating with 3 other, local nudists about going to Burning Man together. One dropped out because he decided that we would go to Italy instead. After repeated attempts to get together for a first meet over the course of 2.5 months, another dropped out leaving just me and J.

In early March a guy from San Fran contact me through my blog (hey babe) and we discussed the possibility of getting a group of 3 or 4 to go in an RV. R said that he had gone once before and that the only way he'd do it again would be in an RV. He subsequently found another SF guys who was also interested and with J added into the mix, that made 4 of us. Perfect! I did some initial investigations into getting an RV and called around to all of the burner-friendly rental companies since I had read real horror stories about the other companies. The long and short of it was that it would cost about $1,100 per person (gas included), which was about what I had expected. After I shared the rental details, only D responded so nothing really happened since then and the burner friendly rental companies were already starting to sell out.

Serendipitously the BF ran into two guys visiting from Reno at the last naked cocktails event. J and S are avid burners. He immediately brought me over and introduced me to them. J and S told that about the registered theme camp that they were members of. I had already spoken to 4 other, predominately gay theme camps, but their camp struck me as exactly the kind of camp that I wanted to be a part of. The BF and I took them to a Chinese restaurant in Chinatown. Interestingly enough we never did discuss Burning Man at dinner but rather discussed a very diverse set of topics.

After our meeting I looked up their theme camp and sent an email to the camp coordinators. Although they were very welcoming, the told me that they normally take on new members in July when they get there space from the Burning Man organization and have a better idea for how many existing members will be returning. I was overjoyed when the contacted me back to let me know that they had decided to admit me immediately at their last meeting. Woohoo!

So why go with a camp?

• I feel like I should definitely go with someone so that if I go missing at least someone knows I once existed. Just seems like a personal safety thing to me especially since it is my first time.
• Depending on a 50-person theme camp is way more reliable than depending on a single or even three individuals. I don't have to worry about anyone backing out. I don't have to worry about being stuck with plane tickets, RV, etc should the people that were going to split the cost with me suddenly not be able to make it.
• There some camp amenities such as a shared kitchen including utensils, pots and pans.
• There's a built-in concept of home base and plenty of people to spend time with.
• There's even a food group that shares meals. I've seen the menu and they eat quite well (I. This means I won't have to pack food. When I was planning to bring my food it was going to be very austere since I didn't want to worry about clean up and wasn't going to bring a stove or any method of refrigeration.

All in all, my joining their camp has allowed me to begin taking the next steps in my planning such as truly finalizing my packing list and the acquisition of the things that I will be needing. Also, J and S have been very kind and even offered to allow me to pre-ship some of my stuff directly to them. They're returning to DC next weekend, which also coincides with the next naked cocktail event. We're planning to see them there and go out to eat afterwards. I shared the camp information with J, the local nudist, so if he really does want to go he's free to join them and me as well.

Purchases I made this weekend:

• Sleeping bag
• RV safe toilet paper
• Tent
• 2 LED flashlights (although they don't seem to be bright enough)
• Large and small lanterns
• Small bike pump, head light (LED) and patch repair kit
• Battery operated air mattress pump (I already have the air mattress)
• 4 solar garden lights for the entrance to my tent
• Flexitol brand heel balm (lots of people really recommended this for protection against playa foot)
• Small hand mirror
• Wet wipes
• Solar shower bag (there might be a shower already set up in the camp, but I'm not sure)
• Multi-tool (knives, serrated saw, screw drivers, can opener, bottle opener, etc)
• Camelbak style backpack with pocket for additional stuff
• Liquid soap (I could have just bought this in Reno, but oh well)
• Work gloves

Additional arrangements I've made:

• Purchased Burning Man ticket
• Reserved car in Reno (including bike rack)
• Reserved a bicycle from Reno Spark's Kiwanis Bike Program
• Began monitoring air fares

As it currently stands, I'm planning to fly out of DC as early as possible Monday morning with the hope of arriving sometime around noon. I would then take the rest of the day to buy things that I don't want to bother buying in DC and then having to ship them there. So far the shopping list includes stuff like batteries, water, liquor (off course!), hammer, etc, etc. I would then stay in Reno overnight and start the 2.5 hour trek from Reno to Black Rock City sometime around 5 or 6 am. The goal is to have enough time to arrive, find my camp and set everything up before 11am when things start to get too hot. I had thought about trying to fly out of DC on Sunday, but considering that I won't be getting back from my week at the GNI Naked Gathering until about 3pm, I thought this was way too adventurous. Besides, BM starts on Monday so arriving on Monday would guarantee me the longest lines to get in.

Anyway, if nothing else, you should be able to tell by the length of this post that I am completely STOKED!!!

Palm Springs

We arrived in Palm Springs just about two days ago. This is my first trip and was on my list of places that I wanted to go. The BF, two other friends are all here staying at Inn Exile for the week. Serendipitously we ran into B&J, a couple of gay boys that live in the DC area that we've known for a few years. As it turns out, they're staying at the same resort and their room is directly across from ours.

The first day the temperature was in the 60s, but got up into the 80s and 90s for the remainder of our trip. We stayed at Inn Exile, which was OK. On Sunday we day-tripped over at All Worlds Resort, which I liked a whole lot better. If I go back I think I'll probably stay there next time. At All Worlds, one of my travelling companions ran into someone he knows from DC. We let us put our things in his room and supplied us with liquor for the day. He also showed me the red light room, which had a sling and was surprisingly packed to be 5pm on a Sunday.

On Friday early evening we went to Wang's in the Dessert, which we were told is the place to be. The place was absolutely packed, drinks were only $2 and the people were extremely friendly. On Sunday we went over to Barracks up in Cathedral City for the beer bust which was a also a lot of fun. I wore my leather football pants and thought about stripping down to a jockstrap, but didn't. We also briefly went over to CCBC, but two of my companions weren't feeling it so we only stayed for about half an hour.

When I returned, a friend of mine asked me to compare it to Ft. Lauderdale. I had a hard time answering because they're so similar and yet so different, but I'm going to make another attempt here. FTL has Haulover Beach, which is a definite plus. That said, much of the daytime activities in Palm Springs revolve around the resorts so there seems to be moreactivity there. I think I'd have to say I like both, but perhaps I liked Palm Springs just a little bit more. Also, the dry air, lack of mosquitoes and predictable weather during the winter are also big pluses.

Genius

I know how geeky it is for me to love this video, but having made a career out of technology I can really say that I am amazed that they could get a robot to do this. It also shows the limitations of robotics if getting a robot to do something that is so easily done by almost any human. Lastly, one has to wonder... how many millions of dollars were spent on that folding machine?

Burning Man Update

Well, it seems like our little group of three local guys trying to do Burning Man together has dissolved. Oh well. I'm still committed to going anyway. Two of us have decided to continue on and try to make it work. We're supposed to meet this Monday. I'm also in contact with a couple of gay guys in San Francisco. Ideally it would work out so that the two groups merge and become one.

Battlestar Galactica Next

Finally some real news! Rumors are that the SyFy channel is contemplating a new BSG spinoff. Woohoo!

Irrelevancies

Friday of this past weekend I finally wore the kilt I bought at Mid Atlantic Leather weekend out. Needless to say a lot of people played with it/me all night long as well as asking if had on any underwear. Of course I didn't.

Then on Saturday I wore my new five fingered shoes to the naked cocktails and the party afterwards. I also wore them to Costco the next day as well.

This last pic was taken in a dressing room of the Levis store in Tyson's mall. Very often when I go into dressing rooms the BF comes with me. I like him to come so that I can get his opinion and also because since we wear the same sizes he often tries on whatever I'm going to buy and vice-versa. Well at the Levis store the changing room attendant was this cutist little 18ish blond-hair'd boy. When we told him we only needed one room he jokingly said we would only have 2 minutes. We laughed. He really was joking.

Porn is Good

Finally, just the justification that we've all been waiting for...

But seriously, I am by nature a scientist and so tend to put a lot more stock in good studies than anectodes. Perhaps the issue isn't porn though. Perhaps it is in the inherent harm that we do to ourselves when we try to deny our nature that has been built up over the course of millenia. This doesn't mean that we cannot progress. It just means that lying about who we are is counter-productive.

Despite the widespread and increasing availability of sexually explicit materials, according to national FBI Department of Justice statistics, the incidence of rape declined markedly from 1975 to 1995. This was particularly seen in the age categories 20–24 and 25–34, the people most likely to use the Internet. The best known of these national studies are those of Berl Kutchinsky, who studied Denmark, Sweden, West Germany, and the United States in the 1970s and 1980s. He showed that for the years from approximately 1964 to 1984, as the amount of pornography increasingly became available, the rate of rapes in these countries either decreased or remained relatively level. Later research has shown parallel findings in every other country examined, including Japan, Croatia, China, Poland, Finland, and the Czech Republic. In the United States there has been a consistent decline in rape over the last 2 decades, and in those countries that allowed for the possession of child pornography, child sex abuse has declined. Significantly, no community in the United States has ever voted to ban adult access to sexually explicit material. The only feature of a community standard that holds is an intolerance for materials in which minors are involved as participants or consumers.


In terms of the use of pornography by sex offenders, the police sometimes suggest that a high percentage of sex offenders are found to have used pornography. This is meaningless, since most men have at some time used pornography. Looking closer, Michael Goldstein and Harold Kant found that rapists were more likely than nonrapists in the prison population to have been punished for looking at pornography while a youngster, while other research has shown that incarcerated nonrapists had seen more pornography, and seen it at an earlier age, than rapists. What does correlate highly with sex offense is a strict, repressive religious upbringing

Read more here.

Racial Perspectives

Recently I was talking to a black friend of mine who was recounting a sexual encounter that he had had with a white guy. Now, for the record I know this friend to date whites, blacks and latinos at a minimum and is obviously comfortable around all. Perhaps he has a racial preference for dating, but I am completely unaware of it.

While in the midst of having sex the white guy says to my friend 'I love your black skin.' I think I can safely say that all black guys that date white guys have heard some version of this at least a few times. My friend asked me how would I feel if someone had asked me this. He said that it didn't cause him to bail out on the sex, but that he didn't like it at all.

So what does a black guy think when he hears this?

We hear that we have been reduced to a melanin fetish. Our partner doesn't see us as complete human beings, but rather the stereotypes connotated with by our skin. That there is nothing special about us that attracted this person other than being breathing and being black and that any person with a similar skin tone would have done just as well.

So what the hell is a white guy thinking when he says it?

Well, first the problem with the statement is that sometimes the white guy means exactly what the black guy thought he meant. But not always...

Sometimes what the white guy is saying is that although some people may discriminate against you because of your skin, it is not a barrier for him. That he finds beauty in the very thing that some say lessens you. Or... he may mean nothing deeper than when we say that someone looks good with a tan.

Honestly the statement has never bothered me probably because I am a hopeless optimist and always think the best. Nonetheless... a recommendation for white guys (probably the same for girls too), just don't say it. Not because there is inherently anything wrong with the words but because the chance if it being misconstrued is great.

Besides, if you do say it, you just might not get laid.

Naked Happenings

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Bullshit

Not only is this video from the Onion is hilarious but it also makes an incredibly good point about the state of our news.

Burn, Burn, Burn

They danced down the streets like dingledodies, and I shambled after as I've been doing all my life after people who interest me, because the only people for me are the mad ones, the ones who are mad to live, mad to talk, mad to be saved, desirous of everything at the same time, the ones who never yawn or say a commonplace thing, but burn, burn, burn like fabulous yellow roman candles exploding like spiders across the stars and in the middle you see the blue centerlight pop and everybody goes

I came across this today on one of the Burning Man forums. I love it!

Another Casualty

Two posts in the same day on the same theme. Both were people ravaged by the consequence of a society that resulted in them believing that they could not live life as gay.

This time it's the suicide of Marie Osmond's son. At least according to this article in the National Enquirer (I know, but hey they did break the John Edwards story) the 18 year old Michael Osmond jumped from 8th floor of his apartment building.